The Viral Chair Theory Gets One Important Thing Wrong About Work

Belonging matters. But the real diagnostic is what happens when you ask for a seat at the table.

There is a viral idea circulating right now called “the chair theory”. Say you walk into a room tired, overloaded, or carrying things. Who notices? Who shifts their attention, makes space, and pulls up a chair for you without being asked? And who keeps talking, ignores you, or leaves you hovering with your hands full. And who acts surprised when you sto…